All the Single Ladies

Being a single lady in your late thirties or early forties, can be seen as a stigma. We meet men and the first question they ask is “Why are you still single?” But at the same, he’s single as well. It is unpopular for a woman, at any age, to choose to remain single. Whether it be because of a bad relational experience, divorce, or just enjoying the freedom to live life on our own terms, more women are living an unmarried life.

On the flip side there are women who desire a husband and family and to live the American Dream. Because of that, we may choose men who aren’t aligned to our values or stay in relationships longer than we should. When in reality, we should not be choosing. We get ahead of God because we are impatient and tired of going through life alone.

My gal pals and I celebrated our single lives back in February. I had this crazy idea to invite a few of my closest unmarried friends to dinner. It went from a simple dinner to a full blown production. I admit I was being completely extra with the event. I named it "All the Single Ladies" and for at least three weeks prior to our gathering I sent daily messages with a song to match.

"Two days, Single Ladies...TWO DAYS. I love a good ballad..especially one sang by a voice that feels like warm whiskey on a cold night. Imagine being on the dance floor dancing to this song ...."

The song attached was Chris Stapleton's "Loving You On My Mind."

It wasn't long before a couple of them muting the chat! I was just being extra for no reason, but I believe that deep down they were looking forward to my daily messages.

I gifted each single lady with a themed gift bag that included a framed photo of themselves, personalized makeup bag with all the essentials: gum, hand wipes, EOS hand lotion and lip balm, a Phlur perfume sample, compact mirror, and a sticky note pad and pen. The note pad was for a daily "why I love myself" note to be written and placed where they could see it for the month of February. And of course, I had to check in with my ladies--

"Who do you love?!?! Are you for sure?!!?... or whatever the lady on the LL Cool J song said! Are you keeping up with why you love yourself everyday? Day 20 and I've had to dig deep some days...Show us your mirror or share one thing you love about yourself- I love that I am kind, compassionate and empathetic! Your turn..."

Our dinner was spectacular. The theme was cute and casual and the single ladies did not disappoint. We exchanged fragrances with each other-either a candle, lotion, perfume, oil....whatever our creative minds thought of. We completed dinner activities like writing a love letter to ourselves and naming the qualities we seek in a mate.

This event turned out to be more fun than I imagined. But more importantly, my friends and I left feeling loved and they made connections with new single gal pals.

I was sad for the moment to end, but I'm sure my gals were glad that they weren't being spammed with my daily group texts anymore.

How do you celebrate or appreciate being a Single Lady?